Good vibes only. Have you ever heard that saying? What an amazing way to live life, and I’ve definitely met people who seem show the appearance of this.
It’s not possible at Christmas. I’m telling you this from the experience of a woman very much embedded within her birth family this and last Christmas. Christmas has become, since a young adult for me, a time of mourning more than merriment and the winter months being the highest rate for suicide the year throughout, it felt important to explore the importance of all vibes.
But what is a “high vibe”?
Obviously, that means a high vibration. But what does that mean for the emotional body? Emotions can be categorised by their vibration, moving from the lowest negative emotional states including grief and anger, and up to the highest including gratitude and love.
It’s very easy in spiritual pursuits to believe that you should be able to maintain a high vibration all of the time. While it’s an attractive ideal, like with mind altering substances, what goes up must come down.
Why low-vibe is good for you
Many of you, like me, may play with movement, energy and breath that can give you a boost but it’s important to listen to what your body’s state is telling you rather than forcing it. Depression is an extremely low-vibe state, difficult to be around, difficult to live through but it actually causes some very important changes in the way that you function. As emotional wounds are perceived and expressed by the brain in the same way, depression gives you in lieu of an injury or physical wound, the recovery time you need to get better.
You’ll feel antisocial, exhausted, craving heavy foods and cheap ways to “snap yourself out of it”. But what if you don’t?
What if, instead of chasing a high you go down. And I mean really go down.
This is, in itself, unheard of in modern western society. We are independent. We’re goal setting, dream chasing, life living go getters.
Resting is also living.
Giving into small bouts of depression and honouring low moods can stave off larger problems in the long term. It requires immense self control to allow oneself to stagnate, but the benefits could be overwhelming. You don’t have to do this with a smile! This is compassionate self care and every journey is unique.
Surrendering to what is present takes careful thought to do it with a healthy approach, but can look like a change in routine, extra rest taken or a diet that’s more relaxed. For example, I know television isn’t great, but sometimes there’s nothing more helpful than allowing the passage of time while I’m simply doing nothing.
Recognition not transcendence
Recognising where you are in your individual process is another one. I heard a lot, in my time abroad the idea of transcendence. Perhaps I’m a very unevolved human, but I can’t see how in my lifetime I can transcend anything. I simply don’t have the time! I have been given the gift to learn tools to begin to help manage the healing work I’ve been given to do.
It seems ridiculous to tell you not to prize one experience over another, because it is natural to prefer experiences that are pleasurable, that “win”, that feel good and create more good – but all experiences are valid in your journey and are worthy of your time, care and attention.
If you feel like your mood is toxic, like you’re a bad person, then please remember this:
It doesn’t matter what’s in your head as long as your heart is full. Love is the course correction on the way to manifestation and cocreation.Me, journalling
Enjoy a heart-focused simple meditation:
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